10% rule - in any conflict or any idea you don’t like, there is 10% where that person is right. Find the 10%. “What I like about that idea is… And…” Find what’s right about what people are saying, tell them, and then build on it. Great for ideation and conflict resolution.

there 3 marriages in life: partner, career, self

A big shift for me in my ability to surrender in my interactions with others was when I realized I was not relating to that being, but the programming they inherited (often unconsciously). This person that just pissed you off came into this world a clean slate and then had a bunch of things happen to them, many of which that they did not choose. All of these experiences formed who they became. And within that container, that person in that moment is just trying to do the best they can with the information they have…just like you are.

2 mice had to run on a wheel. One by choice and the other at the others pace. The first one had all the benefits of exercise. The other had all the stress, despite it being the same level of exercise

A good rule of thumb in decision making is, whenever you cannot decide what you should do, choose the action that represents a change, rather than continuing the status quo.

A lot of reality is generated off what we expect. When we let go of expectations, we make room for the unexpected to happen

according to Vedic wisdom, “one sees the world just as one sees himself”, thinking “Everyone should be like me”, or “Everyone is like me”, either consciously or unconsciously. A practical example: a person who is (or has been) a thief will be the most qualified to protect a property from theft, and a lusty person will tend to see everybody else as lusty - people really obsessed with lust will even PROJECT on others and believe them to be lusty when in fact this is not the case.” A person who has a narrow understanding will think or surmise that others have his/ her same limitations, while a person who has a wider understanding (the widest being Brahman realisation) will be able to see more in others.

A falling tree makes more noise than a growing forest.

A liberal will move laterally across ideas because the value openness due to the fluidity of knowledge and ideas, a conservative will move vertically and stay in the same category. This is called divergent thinking. Which is good for creativity but hinders identity (because you move across topics) and it is also hard to monetize that creativity

Accept pain without the confusion of fear. In childbirth it helps a woman stay focused. It directs your attention to symptoms and feelings. It tells you to rest. Fear leads to resistance and contraction. We consider pain as bad or wrong. We believe something is wrong. Fear compounds the pain. There is pain in life but suffering is optional. The judgement and stories can worsen the pain and trap it. Our world shrinks.

A story needs to have struggle, turmoil and tension so that it can have triumph

Accept the present moment as if you had chosen it

A true boundary, a loving no, does not separate us. It’s protects us. It allows us to keep our hearts open to each other, relate honestly, yet know exactly where we stand

Acceptance, under someone else’s terms, is worse than rejection.

Genuine moral effort is a good substitute for psychotherapy

Acting is behaving truthfully under imaginary circumstances

All is mind. The universe is mental

All knowledge and information can be tapped into by connecting to the higher self. The subconscious mind, though it may have extensive knowledge accumulated during various incarnations, is still limited and can not venture beyond the experiences it has undergone.

All living organsisms are but leaves on the same tree of life. The various functions of plants and animals and their specialized organs are manifestations of the same living matter” - Szent

All movement is sound. when I feel an inner misalignment, that’s the sign to speak my truth. To speak from anger. Denying it is suppressing the universal energy that wants to come through. It means not fully engaging with life, not trusting life. It’s about respecting myself, my dignity.

All of you is welcome. Even not showing up”.

Accept what is right in front of you and do not ask for more or less. The Enrchridion compares life to a banquet: “is anything brought round to you? Put out your hand and take a moderate share. Does it pass by you? Do not stop it. Is it not yet come? So not yearn in desire toward it, but wait till it reaches you. So with regard to children, wife, office, riches: and you will some time or other be worthy to feast with the gods

Acceptance from others is not necessary

All truth passes through three stages. First it’s ridiculed. Next it’s violently opposed. Then it’s accepted as self evident

Act from a place of inspiration, joy and possibilty. Not from fear

All you need is already within you, only you must approach your self with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and self- disgust are grievous errors. Your constant flight from pain and search for pleasure is a sign of love you bear for your self, all I plead with you is this: make love of your self perfect. Deny your self nothing–give yourself infinity and eternity and discover that you do not need them; you are beyond.

Activism is about helping others understand

Allow your life to be an upwards spiral, not a loop

Allow yourself to feel love and happiness in the moment. Man married for 40 years afraid every day of losing his wife. When she final in died she wishes that he had been present with her and allowed the love and happiness.

Am I at peace with who this person is?

Am I willing to look foolish today so I can learn something that will make me better tomorrow?

Amen = it’s too much for the likes of me but I’m in

all methods are traps

Anxiety comes before making a decision. It is the human condition.

Anxiety is an evolutionary alarm detecting pure openness — the ungraspable torrent of raw aliveness. The freefall of adult life that has no reliable handholds or reference points. Iterative exposure to this open and formless vulnerability fortifies the nervous system and our underlying psychology to tolerate what’s actually true: we don’t know who we are or where we’re going. We can learn to tolerate the reality of being a mystery to ourselves and that the world is an unknowable and majestic energetic pattern - spectacular in its creativity, color, and seamless exchange.

Any behaviour expected to deliver rewards will release dopamine. Dopamine is the desire drug, it stimulates motivation in the brain. If you know there are no immediate rewards, your brain won’t release it. It does t matter whether the activity is healthy or not, your brain just wants dopamine. The highest dopamine release is one where you get it randomly (slot machines). This is why we’re always checking our phones - expecting to get a notification and getting that dopamine.

All sides of my personality are valid. They make me who I am. They will always influence the other parts of me. I am whole. Denying one part would be to lose a part of myself.

Art is a diary entry. Make it for yourself. The audience comes last.” - unknown The problem with art nowadays is people care about how they look while they’re doing it.

As a baby, we are loved unconditionally. Then with speech we learn that love is conditional. If I scream, I am told off. We develop a shadow, the part we repress to ensure we are loved.

As a child, you don’t know what to fear until someone tells you what to fear. And very often that’s success. Schools jails and hospitals all look the same. Why aren’t schools places to inspire? Because they want to control

As long as we respond to stimuli, as long as we rebel, as long as we pay, as long as we vote, nothing will change. We are stimulated to react, to participate in the ‘game’ but as soon as we get up from the table it is all over.

As water cannot rise higher than its own level, thought cannot think what is higher than thinking

As you start to walk on the way, the way appears

Ask the universe: if that is my path, bring me the opportunities

Ask: what does this moment have to teach me?

Ask “what more do you want to say or feel?

Abundance is antithetical to growth. Hence growth mindset is that you are not enough

Ask yourself, what is the reward I’m getting from this?

Although my view is as vast as the open sky, my attention to action/karma is as delicate as the mustard seed.

At the soul level, everything is all good. We don’t die, we change form

Ambition and achievement. They don’t need to be the thing that you need to do in order to get somewhere. They can be the thing you do in order to express the fact that it’s great to be hear, to have these skills and opportunities

Attention is love

Authenticity = be in touch with feelings and be able to act on them

Authenticity = telling the truth about who you are, telling the truth about what you believe, owning your experience and seeing your experience as your highest authority. Everyone else’s experiences is their highest authority. This is who I am, this is what I’ve done, if you like it amazing. If you don’t that’s fine

Be an ordinary person who makes one extraordinary decision a day. And you’ll look back and realise you’ve become extraordinary

Accept peoples thank yous and praise. But when they leave, let it go with them. Send it away. Keeps you humble

Be ok with people not liking you. Most people don’t even like themselves

Be wary of thinking enlightenment will come with practice, you are still living on time (achieving something although more subtle than a sports car)

Be your own critic. Note what you did well, what you didn’t, and tell yourself good job and next time you’ll do better.

Because we can feel belonging only if we have the courage to share our most authentic selves with people, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance

Anything you want to ask a teacher, ask yourself, and wait for the answer in silence.

Before, we use the world in service of our happiness. Afterwards, we use our happiness in service of the world.

All the sorrow and trouble of this world is caused by Unhappy people. The search for contentment is not merely a self preserving and self benefit g act, but also a generous gift to the world. Clearing out all your misery gets you out of the way. You cease being an obstacle, not only to yourself but to anyone else. Only then are you free to serve and enjoy other people.

Art is not knowing if it’s going to work out. You’re not painting a house. You’re just exploring.

Belief is a cop out on intellectual truth seeking because belief precludes believing in its opposite. This is a self limitation - you become your own cop.

Belief = opinion + agreement

As a creator the joy is in creating not in expectation of results. Renunciate results but never passion for passion is the love of turning being into action

Birds born in cages see flying as an illness

Blessed is the nightbird that sings for joy and not to be heard.

Boundaries are the distant I need to love me and you simultaneously

bow to the heart in its current state. If it’s closed, let it be closed; sanctify the closure. Make it safe; safe even to feel unsafe.

Ask questions that are so big that only your life can answer them

Ask “what is the action I can take from this thought”. This will help identify a constructive thought vs rumination

Challenging people and trigger situations are sent to clear the pain-body, the emotional constipation over life

Change is inevitable. You can react to the change or you can participate in it

Change will lead to insight more often than insight will lead to change

At the end of it all, what matters most is being at peace with ourselves, not accomplishments, possessions, relationships, money or fame.

4 Cs that define addiction: compulsion, craving, control, consequences.

Clarity comes from engagement not thought. If you’re unsure what to do, take small actions. Speak to someone, read a book. Give yourself permission to experiment.

clarity is like light we focus on the objects it illuminates but instead become aware of light itself the mind is a phenomenon like rocks, trees, sun but clarity is what distinguishes the mind it is a wakefulness we are lucky to have clairty it is always there with us, even as we sleep when clarity meets emptiness then we find rigpa

Attention is consciousness directed at an object. In the absence of an object, it collapses into pure consciousness.

Compassion is instinct

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom

Confronting is honest and creates trust; therefore, it is an act of love. When I confront, I value myself and set a boundary. I also trust and value you enough to tell you what’s going on in me.

Attention should be lovingly drawn back to its source. Let’s the mind rest in the heart. It doesn’t need to be disicplined.

Anger is the root symptom of hope, of hope that the world can be a better place. The man who shouts every time he loses his house keys is betraying a beautiful but rash faith in the universe in which keys never go astray.

Contentment is created when your behaviour is consistent with your values “this is the real secret of life - to be completely engaged with what you are doing. And instead of calling it work, realise it is play

Be a good steward of the money you do have and more will come to you (same with friendships, skills, whatever)

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather taking action despite the fear.

Create when you realise that your perspective on reality is not being portrayed by others

Create your own metrics for how you want to live your life (such as ‘I’m a loyal friend’, ‘I help others realise their potential’) and judge yourself against your own standards, rather than trying to live in accordance with the standards of society (‘I must be rich’, ‘I must be beautiful’). True happiness comes from congruence between our actions and our values.

Creating a good product is like polishing a rock with other rocks. The team creates the fricifion, often through arguing, but it gets the best result

Be open random and supportive. Most people are closed, selective and controlling

Criteria for a good day: create, contribute, connect, move, appreciate, learn

Culture is not our friend. Culture is actually an enemy. Because as soon as something becomes culture it becomes a construct that everyone conforms to.

Curiosity and celebration of yourself allows you to love yourself

Curiosity is the joy in not knowing. See beauty in the mystery, not confusion

Decisions make themselves. If you have to talk yourself INTO it, you don’t want to do it. And if you have to talk yourself OUT of it, you do want to do it

Depression is fear of the past. Anxiety is fear of the future.

Desire for approval comes from a feeling of lack which means we hide who we are. Try turning it on its head. Show parts of yourself you don’t love or feel are least attractive or ashamed of. No one else will find them a big deal, they will probably laugh that you were bothered by it and love your wackiness.

Behavioral activation therapy - act like the person you want to be

Desires that arise in agitation are more aligned with ego. Desires that arise in stillness are more aligned with soul.

Difference between settling for (where you lower your standards) and settling on (where you decide to focus and make it the best it can be). We have limited time and limited options in life. We try to cram too much into our days. This is a fear of our own mortality. But if we decide to settle on certain things in our life, we get enjoyment from doing them to our best ability.

Discipline = freedom

Discipline is doing what you hate doing. But doing it like you love it.

Discipline is less about forcing yourself to do something and more about learning how to do something. Discipline is not something unpleasant that you need to put up with. Instead of discipline, use the word skill. In order to express yourself in stone you must learn how to become a sculptor. There is no possibility of having pleasure in life without skill.

discussion expands the space of possibilities while writing reduces it to its most essential components

Beliefs are functional aspects of people’s social and emotional life’s, not simply disembodied repositories of factual proportions. It’s easy to change someone’s beliefs using evidence if they are not meaningful integrated into their emotional life, self-concept and social identity. But that is rarely the case for beliefs worth changing. And this is a function of human society as survival depends on cooperation and the ability to believe in arbitrary unifying fictions like gods, counties, money and laws.

Beliefs are hypotheses to be tested not treasured to be guarded

Do not seek love, do not look for the light, but be it, offer it; the joy of loving another is infinitely greater than the joy of fearfully seeking or clinging to another’s love, for deep down you know it is only an illusion that what you have always longed for could ever have come from outside of your own heart.

Boundaries are like fences - on an open field they allow children to play freely in a bigger area.

Do you ever get given a project that you don’t want to do?” “sure, but my job is to find what’s exciting in that project

Don’t always trust your intuition but always know it has wisdom

Don’t base your happiness on what is happening in your life (which is out of your control). But instead on what you’re enjoying doing.

Don’t believe your mind. Trust the experience and stay curious. (Could be a drug experience, could be a fearful experience. If you label something as terrible, that’s you resisting it).

Don’t blame God for what your ego has done to you

Bringing these repressed aspects of ourselves to light is how we create a space in which we can heal, transcend the pain, and integrate our shadow into our personality in a healthy way. The shadow can be used to set

Don’t flatter yourself, people aren’t interested in you. Your job is to go downstairs and make people happy. I’m not the centre of attention

Don’t focus on stopping smoking, focus on behaviour you want to replace it with. When you’re driving a car, the car goes wherever your eyes look. So if you look at the parked cars you’ll crash into them.

Don’t identify with the role of helper. It creates separation and more paranoia. Remember all you need to do is just listen, to be there with them. That you receive as much as you give.

Don’t joke about experiences you’ve never had

Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good “Traveller, there is no path. The path must be forged as you walk

Capitalism rewards things that are both rare and valuable. You make yourself rare by combining two or more “pretty goods” until no one else has your mix.

Change happens when the pain of saying the same becomes higher than the pain of change.

Don’t talk about it. Talk from it.

Don’t think about time in terms of hours, but in terms of distance. Just like light is measured in a light hour. Think about how much progress you have made towards your goals in a day, not about the amount of time that has passed.

Don’t use your energy fighting the old but building the new

Don’t wait until the iron is hot to strike. Strike until the iron is hot

Don’t worry about confidence, focus on resilience

Don’t write what you know, write towards what you want to know.

Doubt the doubt. Trust the trust. Doubt the belief. Trust the experience. We have learned to doubt the trust and trust the doubt. Doubt can cancel your inspiration and joy. Doubt is a hesitation and fear of commitment. Doubt is ego which keeps its kingdom of beliefs by denying the new. Doubt is a weapon of the old to kill the new.

Dreams are the language of the body

Each freedom comes with the insecurity of letting go of your security

Each person you meet is an aspect of yourself clamouring for love

Easeful kiss with yourself. Go slow. Don’t force the heart to open. Don’t dive deep into the trauma. Just caress the outside just enough.

Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car. Easy to spot an opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity. Each to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad.

Empathy vs compassion: take away the ‘me’ from the situation. Don’t take suffering personally. Don’t put yourself in their shoes but walk with them

Confidence comes from doing what’s best for you, even if it’s looked down on by others

Enlightenment = make all relationships loving (with family, body, all)

Confusion needs time

Every aggressor is a victim. That’s why non-aggression is so powerful

Every day is a gift that’s not yet been unwrapped. And you’re going to unwrap it in the presence of others. And it changes depending on the attention you and others pay to it.

Every feeling you’ve never allowed yourself to feel and every word you’ve never allowed yourself to express is your karma. Everything has to be felt and expressed that’s how you clear your karma.

Every great man is an actor of his own ideal

Every time you replace “this is overwhelming” with “what’s the first step?” you shift brain activity from your amygdala (fear) to your prefrontal cortex (problem-solving). That’s neuroplasticity in real time.

Everyone is so unique that they are incomparable. So stop seeing yourself as higher or lesser than

Everything in life comes and goes. All thoughts, feelings, experiences. Except you. That feels fixed. But know that your body will go. And so all that remains as an obstacle is your ego.

Everything is a story to make sense of reality. That’s why your belief is everything.

Everything you love will probably be lost. But in the end, love will return in a different way

Existential kink: ask, what if I want this? What if some part of me gets off on it. Let go of the resistance, allow the shadow energy to complete itself.

Experiences are beyond words and then we try to cram it into language. No wonder we have miscommunication issues.

Expression is the answer to repression which is often the result of systemic oppression

Failing to keep self-promises is one of the reasons so many of us don’t love ourselves. Not following through on what we tell ourselves we’ll do so destroys our sense of personal worth and dissolves our self-esteem. Keep behaving like that and the unconscious part of you will begin to believe you’re not worth anything.

Anything closely examined vanishes

Criticism, from the sender, really means “I don’t like what this seems like,” but to the recipient it feels like “You shouldn’t be who you are… even when the criticism does make you aware of a fault of yours, the critic’s negative impression and your bruised self-image are not at all the same thing. They don’t see what you see — they didn’t peer into your soul and see its defects, they just got involuntarily reminded of something they remember and don’t like.

Beauty is a force of nature and we are changed in the presence of beauty

Become the person who has what you want

figure who you want to be, then dress like them. It’s a form of practice. Whatever you can have going for you you might as well have going for you.

Find out how you can play your instrument in this universal symphony.

Find the place where you don’t know what to say and speak from there

First step to seeing oneness: see that everything is in relationship. Even the sun, which is in a vacuum, is in a relationship with space

description of love from Conscious Soul: “Love is wanting others to be free… It’s easy to confuse love with attachment, with needing someone to stay so we feel safe or whole. But that’s not love. That’s the ego’s version. True love liberates… To love someone is to want their freedom, even if their path eventually leads away from yours. And if they stay? If they grow beside you, not because they’re bound to you—but because they want to? That’s sacred. Because they’re not staying for safety or need. They’re staying for love. And nothing is more beautiful than that. Love is freedom. Or it’s not love at all.

Flow state is the intersection between challenge and skill. Ask yourself, if you’re feeling either bored or overwhelmed, is this a year for expansion of challenges or of growth in skills

Focus: follow one course until successful

For most people, their love is always for somebody. It is addressed. The moment you address your love, you destroy it. It is as if you are saying, I will only breathe for you. And when you are not there, how can I breathe? Love should be like breathing, it should be just a quality to you. Wherever you are, with whomever, even if you are alone.

Forget compromise. Create a third option that’s even better.

Diet is not just the food we eat, it’s how we touch, what we consume with our eyes (have a clean space, spiritual environment)

Freedom is the inconvience of letting go of your security. You feel blocked because you don’t pursue the inconvenience of the truth. You don’t ask the question you want to

Discipline is choosing what you want most over what you want now “My experience of you is…

All wins feel the same. There’s only so much dopamine. Buying a golf is the same as a Ferrari.

From caring comes courage

Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life

Disentangle your internal state from your external context

Get into agreement with the way things are. We may not have everything we want but our lives are great anyway. It’s ok to want things, if the desire is true you’ll eventually get what you want

Do not be afraid of losing a fight. It is the dignity we keep, win or lose, which evolves the confrontation

Give away love and happiness freely. When you can light a thousand candles with one and its flame does not diminish.

DO NOT OVERESTIMATE WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE. BECAUSE YOU WILL UNDERESTIMATE IT ONCE YOU HAVE IT. DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE WHAT YOU HAVE BECAUSE YOU WILL OVERESTIMATE IT ONCE IT’S GONE.

A wolf cries alone but howls in a pack

God truly loves unconditionally but we have no framework for this because our parents loved us conditionally. We fear that God is too good to be true, that it could be taken away from us

Do or do not, there is no try

Grief is love with nowhere to go

Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.

Happiness is simply the absence of desire… Happiness is not about the achievement of pleasure (which is joy or satisfaction), but about the lack of desire. It arrives when you have no urge to feel differently. Happiness is the state you enter when you no longer want to change your state.

Hate is the poison we drink and hope the other will die

Have no problems with problems. Even accept resistance

Healing has nothing to do with how much you intellectually understand what’s happening to you. It’s about your relationship to what’s happening to you.

Healing is the process of accepting all, then choosing best

Here’s a story about how regular people and Buddhist monks anticipated the future. They put both of them into an MRI and told them they were going to get shocked at some random time in the future. What they found was that regular people would have an anxious baseline response minutes before they were going to get shocked, but when they did, it was only slightly higher than the baseline.

Don’t fight it girl But give it a chance to grow You’re onto something beautiful

How can you not accept something? To do so is to deny what is

All your joy is when you feel one with life.

Don’t focus on what you love or brings you joy. Focus on what you care about or is important to you. If you just focus on what makes you happy, you might not stick with it over time (especially in down times). Instead focus on values and purpose. Passion is dynamic and waxes and wanes with time. It’s hard to maintain the same sense of passion every day. You’ll stick with it if you care about it.

How to know if intuition or fear? Get clear about goals and go through best and worst case scenario to take fear out of the equation. Notice if you’re rushing. Does the decision make you feel expanded or contracted? Don’t think this one decision is the entire thing when really it’s the first step in an entire process. There’s no right or wrong decision you can make, just different ones with different consequence. As long as you’re not allowing external circumstances to define who you are then consequences aren’t good or bad, just information that can empower you along the way.

Call out when you see a feeling in someone. Know that it’s not about you but there is a need they have and you could help.

Humans are not rational beings, they are rationalizing beings

Don’t just treat the behaviour/symptom, treat the purpose. Not what’s wrong but what’s right with that. When did it start, how does it help you. Never say what’s wrong. Say what’s happened.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking about yourself less

I am not the personality. I am the movement. A flame. Eternal.

Don’t say “I’m going to do this”. Say “I’m going to learn to do this” to take the pressure off

I don’t care about being right. I care about success. I can change my my mind if I’m wrong, I don’t care… Creating a good product is like polishing a rock with other rocks. The team creates the friction, often through arguing, but it gets the best result

Character is who you are when no one’s watching

I have to earn my self respect every day. Which means I need to be careful about what I choose to value because that’s how I’ll compare myself when I’m by myself

Choose but don’t want

I love nature. When I realised I was nature, I realised I had to love myself too.

Choose what feels most life giving

I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free

Don’t worry about getting paid your worth. Because your fee does not equal your value. My fee is just what it is to get my name out there, or what the market can bear

I used to feel like a guy experiencing the world and the universe and now I feel like the universe and the world experiencing a guy

I want to stand as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all the kinds of things you can’t see from the centre

If an idea is true, criticism will not destroy it, but strengthen it.

Earth = our larger body

Confidence can never grow if we are never able to be without it

If questioning that you’re an expert on your field, just talk from the heart and see what happens

If someone followed you around today, would they think that you’re serious about your goals?

If the patient is able to encounter and relate to others in new ways, not only will her or his relationships change, but these new outcomes will give rise to new perspectives on past and present interactions, which may lead to changes in her or his unconscious world of self and object representations (Gold & Wachtel, 2006)

If the universe isn’t fixing the situation. It’s using the situation to fix you

If there’s no problem to solve, what is this moment like?

If this X had a job, what would it do? for example, maybe some is being late for everything because when they were late as a child, they got a lift by dad to school so got attention. No longer needs attention and dad loves her. so no need for the pattern

If we prefer only the creatures we like and destroy others, we lose everything. The things you like are connected with so many other things. You should respect that coexistence

If we’re all alone, then we’re all in that together too

If you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you

If you cannot have compassion, have indifference

Contraction = resistance to an experience

If you do not enhance your perception, your life doesn’t get enhanced in any way, it only gets enhanced in someone else’s

Every thought is a blueprint made real by your mind body and psyche” Marisa peer

If you have a problem with me, text me. And if you don’t have my number, you don’t know me well enough to have a problem with me

If you have a repetitive problem that doesn’t want to budge, go softly into body listening and ask the problem how it thinks it is trying to help you. - How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought

If you imagine what it’s like to see your life as so functional to your awakening, life becomes about a process of growth and awakening and openi and deepening and shifting channels, there’s no problem of transition, there’s no holding on out of fear, it’s just opening” - Ram Das (When you recognise yourself as one shared consciousness and life in this body an opportunity to experience)

If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.

If you wait til you are ready you will be waiting til the end of your life

If you walk in leather shoes, the whole world is covered in leather

If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self- transformation.

If you want to tell people the truth, you want to make them laugh. Otherwise they will kill you

If you wouldn’t take their advice, why would you take their criticism

Face discomforts every day so you avoid a greater pain later on

If you’re feeling confused or uncertain about a decision, it could just be fear. Your brain does not want change or for you to reach your goal. So ask yourself “if anything were possible, what would I want?” And “if I had to guess, what would I do next?

If you’re not asking for what’s important to you, maybe it’s because you don’t think you are worth it. People pleasing leads to low self worth

If you’re not grounded in your body, you can’t experience feeling. And if you can’t feel you can’t grow

I’m doing exactly what nature wants

Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.

Imagine there’s a connection between you and client at the heart. At the end, ask universe to cut and send their energy back and your energy back.

In a conflict, it is not you against your partner. It is both of you against the issue.

In an atom, between neutrons, protons, and electrons, we are 99.9999% space. We are just energy and vibrations

In fact, what made him a fine preacher-leader was his willingness to be honest with his congregation. He courageously risked losing face every time he stood before his congregation. For him, that included telling his congregation that he had doubts about his faith—and his faithfulness! He didn’t pretend to be holier than he was. You can imagine how my friend’s risky preaching endeared him to his congregation. They followed him because they knew he was on the same kind of doubt-whispering journey that they experienced in their lives. As a great leader, he walked along with his congregation. He didn’t pretend to fly above them like an angel. By risking face, he was genuinely humble—down to earth.

Find god in everyone, love everyone, but still hold them accountable for their own actions. People that share the quality of compassion have one commonality: boundaries of steel

In order to be a master you have to be a fool at first

Find the choice in every action

Before enlightenment our reaction to the world is “what!?” After enlightenment it is “so what?

Indigenous time is circular, not linear. No need to rush. If you’re not ready, it will turn up in another shape or form.

Inner wisdom is something most children have. The logical mind is something most adults have. Inner wisdom is something that many logical adults squash in their young children, never knowing how important it is, and then those same children go on to become logical adults who squash their kids’ inner wisdom. More often than not, our inner wisdom speaks to us by way of desire. Just like a bee is led to a flower by desire, so we are always being led towards our needs by deep, gut feelings. Children follow this kind of guidance without thinking twice. Their reasoning for doing things is “because it feels good,” “because it doesn’t feel right,” and other completely irrational reasons that make logical adults’ heads swim.

Inside there is a child looking around for validation from the world to express itself. You become mature the day you give yourself permission to express yourself

instead of asking how far ahead am i, try asking how deeply am i here?

Instead of being in the pursuit of happiness, be in the expression of happiness. One is external, one is internal.

Institutions evolve in the same way organisms do. They evolve an immense system that rejects individuals who are harmful to the constitution and ability to thrive. Institutions live longer than people do. They are a collective living organism.

For any ’obstacle’ in your life that you want to overcome, don’t fight it. Let it play and observe it attentively and relaxedly. Don’t hold on by fighting. Once it’s done it’s done. But you’re not the one who decides when it’s done. All you get to do, all you have to do, is observe it and be fully with it.

Integration, in Jung’s definition, means that we cease rejecting parts of our personalities and find ways to bring them forward into our everyday lives. We accept our shadows and seek to unlock the wisdom they contain. Fear becomes an opportunity for courage. Pain is a catalyst for strength and resilience. Aggression is transmuted into warrior-like passion. This wisdom informs our actions, our decisions, and our interactions with others. We understand how others feel and respond to them with compassion, knowing that they are being triggered themselves.

Ironically your comfort zone ends up being the most painful place you could stay

It doesn’t make sense to continue wanting something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don’t want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment

It doesn’t matter if you see how you’re gonna get there or a pathway, the continual march forward is all you need (eg clearing the house and the business)

Forgiveness is not for the other person. It’s for you. It’s so you can release the emotion.

Freedom is perhaps the ultimate spiritual longing but it has to sit within a place of belonging.

It is not from ourselves that we will learn to be better than we are

Being the best isn’t important, it’s about having the most fun

It is ok to desire but do so with non-attachment. In such a way it becomes aspiration. Without aspiration, equanimity would become some sort of quiet defeat, despairing acceptance of the worlds and its miseries.

it might rhyme with others but in its complete majestic detail, the life you are living is wholly, completely unique.

Fulfillment = work hard to acquire skills that matter to you to allow you to elevate yourself and others in service of a goal that’s both exciting and honorable

It’s better to follow the universe than those around you

It’s genuine vulnerability if you’re expressing some part of yourself that the other person might not like. Or you can’t control their reaction to it. Self-disparaging is predisposing how someone is going to think. You’re not allowing them to form their own opinion (Eg me pre-empting my poem oh I didn’t spend very long on this). It’s not vulnerability.

It’s hard but it’s harder to ignore it

It’s important to develop a Myth about yourself and then live to fulfil that Myth

It’s not a mistake, it’s being unskilled

It’s not a waste of time to slow down

It’s not about saying No to what you don’t want to do. It’s about saying No to what you do want to do. The middling priorities.

It’s not about what the words mean it’s about how they make you feel. When he asked Neil Young about what his songs mean he said he had no idea.

It’s not discipline. It’s devotion Thoughts are prayers Actions are rituals Words are vibrations Make your life an offering to your highest purpose

Give yourself permission to be your authentic self. Own your tiredness by stating your needs to the group to be quiet and listen, or take a break

It’s not imposter syndrome. It’s imposter stage. You will pass through it

It’s not yours to hold onto

It’s only those that do nothing that make no mistakes I suppose

Good news is, nothing stays. Bad news is, nothing stays.

Just as white is not the absence of colour but the blending of all of them, so too love is the blending of all emotion, grief, despair, unhappiness and joy.

Just as you have to stop talking to hear what others have to say, you have to stop thinking to find out what life is about. And the moment you stop thinking you come into immediate contact with the unspeakable world

Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with it. It just means you don’t like it. Trying to get what will make you feel ‘enough’ is like trying to add legs to a snake

Just focus on the day

Happiness >= perception of the events of you life - expectations of how the events of your life should be. It doesn’t matter what life is, it matters whether you can accept it.

Language market fit = information foraging, because it resembles the way our ancestors looked for food in the wild. Animals have a particular stimulus in mind, like a banana, and they’re quickly pattern-matching against it to direct attention and movement.

Learn to differentiate between the sound of your intuition guiding you and your traumas misleading you

Learn to say no with your heart open. Keep your heart open to the being as you’re doing what you need to do about the action

Havingness level = capacity for feeling intense sensation before turning off

Letting go = allowing. Notice the experience as it enters your body and allow it to move through you. Energy has to move. Relax your body (unconsciously we tense as we resist).

Letting go = letting be

Helping = we’re in it together. Mutual belonging. Being there in silence (eg young guy helping old man at hospital then sharing bread)

High standards don’t have to come with insecurity.

Life is best enjoyed slow

Hope walks through the fire and faith leaps over it.

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself that you tasted as many as you could

Life’s metaphors are gods’ instructions

How to change a limiting belief? The normal process of creation is thought -> word -> action To change a thought, change your action first and create new evidence If you have money problems, give money away and tell yourself you have the means to do so our conscious experience of the world, and our actual abilities, are materially altered by what we believe to be possible.

Look at your diseases or discomforts or distresses not as a battle. But as a teaching. That there’s something in your life, not that you asked for it, not that you deserve, that is being manifested through that condition. And you may as well seek to learn what that something is. In dealing with it you learn to connect to your essential self. Which is more important than your physical self.

Look left, look right. Take it all in. You’re where you’re meant to be.

Look to the past for things that are doomed and bring them forward to build a better future

Humans will not change unless they are faced with challenges and adversity

Love and let go. How? Know that you carry the feelings / experiences you’ve had in your heart. It’s like gold in your heart.

Humility is always knowing you have more to learn

I always wake at six, no matter what time I go to sleep. I enjoy seeing the light come up with me. And utilizing the daylight and the message that it brings. It’s a different message from when you’re living in twilight hours where there’s a shadow to your life all the time. Psychologically and physically you’re in the dark. There’s something I find uplifting and optimistic and creative about working in the daylight

Love is a vibration of your presence not an emotional state

Love seeks closeness but desire needs distance

Love the questions of life as if they were sacred books. Allow your life to answer them slowly and reverently

Lying is not just saying something that is not true. It is a morphing of one’s identity to create a a safer identity or story that the world might reward you for. But in doing so you abandon yourself

I become whatever I repeat

Make today count

Ask yourself questions: they remind yourself who you want to be. Instead of saying “I’m going to the gym today.” Ask “are you going to go to the gym today?” Binary choices on pen/paper/computer don’t allow for clarification and excuses. Our brain wants to avoid discomfort of cognitive dissonance with who you want to be.

I can’t do it… yet!

May you be kind to your suffering

I don’t know where I’m going but I know where I stand

Mistakes = learning new creative moves and then you apply them. So when you do a stupid thing, stand for it

Mon comportment c’est ma beauté

Mornings build momentum, positive or negative. And this momentum tends to continue through the day

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.

Don’t wait for inspiration. Action is the plan.

most people who criticize others often criticize themselves the same way. They are speaking to us the same way they speak to themselves, but they have to live with themselves 24/7!

Motivation is the spark that lights the fire. Discipline is cultivating it daily to ensure it doesn’t die.

Move from serious to playfulness. It is not a job it’s a joy

My life is my message

My voice changes according to the people I’m with. And therefore the power relationship changes. And my identity changes - the person who is actually available.

Dreaming and desire gives the universe instruction. But surrender the how. Remember that dreams and desires change but that’s OK because these changes come naturally from within. Do not hold onto them because it takes your soul where it doesn’t want to be.

Needs are universal (e.g., respect, belonging, autonomy), while strategies are ways to meet those needs. Conflict often arises from clashing strategies, not incompatible needs.

Negative beliefs have to work really hard to get your attention. The stronger the fear feels the closer you are to the threshold of letting it go “I always wake at six, no matter what time I go to sleep. I enjoy seeing the light come up with me. And utilizing the daylight and the message that it brings. It’s a different message from when you’re living in twilight hours where there’s a shadow to your life all the time. Psychologically and physically you’re in the dark. There’s something I find uplifting and optimistic and creative about working in the daylight

networking is simply asking for directions

Never apologize for what you do well… we’ve been taught that if we have too great a sense of our own largeness, we will lack humility or invite dangerous envy

No is enough. You don’t need to explain yourself.

No matter what luck and opportunity our lives bring us, if we have a lack of permission around how much success it is OK to enjoy, our limiting beliefs will define the ceiling of success that we can manifest

No one has betrayed you more than yourself. The nature of your upbringing is to be someone you’re not in order to feel save and loved, or so you think. How do you break out of it?

If I’m dissatisfied with this world—and I think that I might be—a problem is that you can only desire based on what you know. You have certain experiences in this world, they produce certain desires, those desires reproduce the world. Our reality today just keeps reproducing itself. If you can create different experiences that manifest different desires, then it’s possible that those will lead to the production of different worlds.

Nobody has ever given us love; that is the great illusion. We have simply remembered the field in each other’s presence, sometimes, recognized eternity in the midst of the everyday, then credited each other. Love never came from outside of us; we simply touched our own presence, fell into the love that we are, and cannot not be. And nobody ever took love away from us; we simply forgot the field, and “blamed” the other, and looked for love again, feeling its absence, lost in a narrative of “lost love,” caught up in the drama of the lonely one.

Not knowing brings humility. All understanding starts with I don’t know. Don’t indulge into the impossibility of it but contemplate and trust the possibility of it. That’s how cosmos supports and manifest what you trust.

Nothing is realistic - dream big

Empathy comes from meeting and being open to a wide variety of perspectives. It can be gift to cross-pollinate ideas between people, passing something from one to another depending on what they need to hear. You can enlighten an aspect of their life, shining bright on a blind spot of theirs. This can be articulated through words; showing not telling; allowing information to be experienced to be transformed to wisdom. But they have to come to you for it. It can also be expressed through art or movement or even beauty.

Enlightenment is being totally at peace with where you are right now. That doesn’t mean don’t grow. Just don’t do it from a place of scarcity… do you want to know my secret? I don’t mind what happens

Notice where you ask something of somebody that they can’t give (energetic request) creating pain

Notice where you create your own pain

On a psychedelic trip, surrender. Let it lead. Let it show what it wants to show.

If there is resistance, push-pull can create desire through seduction

On Taoism: We don’t force our heart to beat. It does it by itself. Now figure a world that does everything by itself. The more liberty you give, the more love you give, you more you allow things in yourself and your surroundings to take place, the more order you will have. - Alan Watts Time does not run in a linear progression. The spring does not become the summer. There is first spring and then there is summer. So in the same way, you now do not become you later

Once you risk yourself with your core dream, then the stakes become enormously magnified. If you fail at being yourself, then who would you? Who would you be if you attempted your hearts desire and found out it was false, it wasn’t you at all and it wasn’t possible. This is why we can do readily commit ourselves to minor goals and yet we can be immobilized when we’re faced with even the tiniest step around something we really care about.

One of the diagnostics of a courageous conversation is that it’s a conversation you don’t want to have. Because it’s going to apprentice you to a much larger world than the world you inhabited. But it’s also going to make you bigger, much more alive in the world, more ready to give those gifts to others

Conservatism in politics ought to oppose unneeded social change wherever possible, but to accept it where necessary

One of the most satisfying feelings I know — and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person — comes from my Do not be afraid of losing a fight. It is the dignity we keep, win or lose, which evolves the confrontation

Consistency creates passion

Only while sleeping one makes no mistakes. Making mistakes is the privilege of the active — of those who can correct their mistakes and put them right.

Every day it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day. That’s the hard part

Open vulnerability = where you don’t know what you’re going to say

Our ability to tolerate separateness - and the fundamental insecurity it engenders - is a precondition for minting interest and desire in a relationship

If you do what makes you happy (your passion) in service to make others happy, that brings real happiness.

Our expectations are the filters for our judgements

Our only sustainable competitor advantage is to learn faster and better than anyone else.

Our options may be externally constrained, but we always have the freedom of choice

Our tools become obstacles when we don’t know how to use them

Copy your heroes - you worry about not being original but everything comes from somewhere. You will always be you and put a unique spin. When you copy you pick up the tools of past masters and then you can synthesize different tools. With time you become original. Forget about originality focus on authenticity.

Overview effect - the sense of awe and connection you feel after seeing the earth from space

Passion in a relationship is comensurate with how much uncertainty you can tolerate

Passion is doing what you love. Purpose is doing what you love to serve others

Peace and love is god’s footprint in the heart

Courageous is heartfelt. It comes from the French word coeur. What is the courageous conversation to have? Very often it’s a conversation you don’t want to have because it will apprentice you to a much larger world. But it’s also going to make you much more alive and able to give your gifts to others.

People can only accept you as much as they’ve accepted themselves

If you used be quiet, now be loud

Be inside the moment

People pleasing vs kindness: ask yourself, am I doing this from love or for love?

If you want a world of love, love yourself. If you want a world of laughter, laugh. If you want a world where every kiss from your lover is magical, every sip of coffee is like a warm hug from an old way, then live that way. Model the world within yourself and then watch the world change

People try to crush your dreams to eradicate any guilt they have that they haven’t tried. If something isn’t possible, they don’t have to worry about not having done it. They eradicate it from the field of vision.

People who are concerned more about chaos tend to be more conservative and those more concerned about order tend to be more liberal

People who have the stablest home life take the biggest risks

People who need the love most ask for it in the most unloving ways

People with tattoos have a different relationship with permanence. How could you like something for a lifetime when tastes change? Well, the meaning of them changes with time too. So does your relationship with them. You fall in love with them over and over again

Expect to have a positive outcome and watch as it becomes true (self-fulfilling prophecy)

Perform each action as if it was the last in your life

Persistency is necessary for all forms of mastery. In that moment you feel you can’t go further lies an enormous opportunity to forge an entirely new level of willpower. When you feel you can’t continue, progress a little longer. Your self-discipline muscle will be amplified considerably. And the degree of your self-respect will increase vastly.

Poetry is just the evidence of life. If your life is burning well, poetry is just the ash.

Power = effortless. Like a golf swing with no judder, no impact

Prayer is asking. Meditation is listening.

If you’re disliked by people outside your group, it doesn’t matter. Eg personal trainer angering bodybuilding group. Ends up creating new audiences

Present is not an event in time. It’s a being and we and life are it’s thoughts

Problem solving activates your imagination. Its explorations, play, it helps you be creative. Small wins stack up and you break out of your slump.

Procrastination is avoiding discomfort of feeling a negative emotion, often fear, guilt or shame. It is not a time management problem. We participate in aversive tasks to make us feel better in the short term with the negative mood induced by the task. The solution is emotional regulation, to be aware of the negative emotions and accept them. Remind yourself that you are strong and resilient.

Procrastination - “ you don’t want to feel limited and imperfect. And so if you hold onto a project, if you keep it in the realm of fantasy, it can stays perfect, it can be later that you do this great thing. Any action that brings things into the world involves confrontations with your limitations. Maybe you’re not gonna have the talent, maybe it’s not going to be well received…

if you’re scared of feeling an emotion you’re already in it

Projection involves negative qualities in ourselves that we have disowned (what Jung called ‘the Shadow’), which we then start seeing all around us in other people.

psi phenomena such as telepathy, precognition and remote viewing. psi abilities seem to correlate with your belief that they are possible. They may also be trainable. This would obviously make sense: if your own consciousness thinks certain abilities are impossible, it’s not even going to try. This is why psi seems to be more prevalent in children, who have no preconceived notion of what their consciousness can do.

Psychedelic means consciousness enhancing. Ideas can be psychedelic

Punk is not just a haircut, or a patch on your jacket. It is a mechanism to communicate unorthodox points of view - which often can be rebellion, anger. I wanted to communicate a change happening within myself. To say something more genuine. This was scary as hell to do, to be vulnerable in the public eye. To let people know what you really feel inside, under all the jokes, fashion, and façade that make up ones ego. Punk is being shamelessly truthful

Purpose is never achieved. It’s attained on a daily basis

Quality of life depends on how much you can concentrate and what you concentrate on. How to gain a more focused mind? Love leads to focus. The mind is drawn to what it loves. Devotion makes focus effortless.

Rather than asking why you feel a certain way, ask what the feeling resembles. Is it heavy or sharp, enclosed or exposed, still or moving? The first image that arises often carries emotional accuracy. Staying with the image for a moment, without analysing it, is often enough to shift how the feeling is held. For example, one client who struggled with sudden shutdowns during conflict initially described the sensation as ‘nothingness’. Over time, this shifted into an image of a locked room with no windows. Rather than forcing the door open, we explored what it was like to stand outside the room and notice its features. As the image became more defined, the client felt less overwhelmed and more curious.

Real concentration only comes in the latter half in the cycle of the project. At the beginning you’re meant to be half in and half out. You’re meant to be semi reluctant. But as long as you turn up every day and you get to know that edge and move it along just a little, the increasing states of intensity and concentration will come with time.

Realizing that I’m enough is actually the foundation For real ambition. When you realise the Lamborghini isn’t enough, you recalculate your real ambitions like playing piano or spending time with my niece

Fear makes us feel stuck. Curiosity allows us to explore new opportunities and step outside of fear.

Regulate yourself with rhythm (dancing, cycling, walking). This calms you down in the same way that rocking a baby does.

In every person you meet there’s a little piece of god and that’s who you talk to. But make sure they see it in you first.

Repressing emotional states, traumas and other parts of ourselves means that they are not being observed. This means that the behaviour resulting from them is likely not being observed either. Remaining unaware of this will leave you open to unconsciously acting your shadow out on other people (and yourself), perpetuating the cycles of abuse that caused you harm in the first place. This is why hurt people hurt people.

in order to change your life you’re going to have to make some changes

Safety = it’s ok

In the moment you pledge your highest love, you greet your greatest fear. For the first thing you worry about after saying I love you is whether you’ll hear it back. And if you hear it back, then you begin immediately to worry that the love you have just found, you will lose. Every choice you make is either out of love or fear: fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in runs, hides, hoards, harms. Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sends out, stays, reveals, shares, heals.

Scarcity teaches us more of you means less of me. If you have more rights I have less. Abundance mindset is the reverse

Security is mostly a superstition… life is either a daring adventure or nothing

Fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm fearsome, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore. They leave that wisdom to those to whom it appeals. When the storm comes — when night falls — what’s worse: the danger or the fear of danger? Give me reality, the danger itself.

See the beloved in every face

Instead of asking “does this person like me” when I meet them, ask “do I like them?

Seek water in the ocean, not in a dried-up channel

Self belief = gratitude, thankfulness in advance of the creation. Know in advance that the deed has been done.

Self criticism leads to activation of sympathetic nervous system. We receive it as a threat, a threat to our self concept. This leads to stress and eventually shutdown

Self-love doesn’t come from fixing yourself. It comes from loving the bits you were trying to fix “Anxiety is a warning system, letting us known when our ‘story’ is arguing with the reality of the environment. Anxiety presents the world as strange, the familiar becomes unfamiliar. We become estranged from our everyday life. Anxiety reveals we exist and this revelation gives us distance from what is obvious and so widens our sense of what is possible. Instead of brushing this feeling off, we should seize it as it is our fallen self beckoning for authenticity.

Separateness is a predcondition for connection. If you are merged, there is no bridge to cross to the other.

Set your expectations on becoming, not on being.

Integrated shadow = you can do things that you wouldn’t do. You chose not to. Dissolve and integrate. ”I’d rather be whole than good

Shame dies when stories are told in safe places

Shame is thinking who I am is not who I should be. Shame prevents us from becoming who we are.

Being a perfectionist isn’t beating yourself for not doing well enough. But not allowing yourself the celebration when you do achieve.

Shifting your thinking from ‘I have to do this’ to ‘I get to do this’ engages curiosity.

Silence is not empty. Silence is the witness of sound. It is the eternal presence of the divine.

Since the one supreme ruling power is performing all activities, why should we, instead of yielding ourselves to it, think, ‘I should not act in this way; I should act in that way’? When we know that the train is carrying all the freight, why should we, who travel in it, suffer by keeping our own small luggage on our heads instead of putting it down and remaining happily at ease?

It is easier to want what you get than to get what you want. I might not always like it but I can always accept it

Smile with your breath in your body

It is not about reaching somewhere. It is about arriving here.

Some of you might remember I wrote in my memoir about the night, just a few days post-diagnosis, I had a visceral, full-body experience of falling freely through space. Many seconds later I realized that instead of clenching my body in terror, I could simply relax and let myself enjoy the fall. I never did hit any ground—instead I was suddenly released from the whole sensation. Now I understand that this experience foreshadowed my descent into paralysis, and now death. The truth is I was safe to relax all along. It’s all okay, and always has been

Someone becomes the one by what you build together. There’s no so much thing as the one. Just like there’s only one career for you. You have the right raw materials and then go for the long run.

Friends can be: care, character, consistent, competence

It is only through self-mastery that man can be free. Those who cannot govern themselves are condemned to be governed by other masters.

Sometimes the ego can give you enough courage to enter the ring, even if you end up falling and bemoaning it

It’s a gift to give because it means you have enough to be able to help others. Always say my pleasure instead of you’re welcome A goal without steps is merely a wish effectivve communication isnt about waht said its whats heard for us to know, first we must not know thoughts are an escape route from feeling intellectually absorbing information can have a trickle down effect that leads to reality shifting (vs a bottoms up somatic approach of increased sensitivity to experience).

Spend an hour every day with the pioneering part of you, the part that’s willing to risk it all. It’s normal to have other parts that are reluctant and scared. And sometimes it’s OK to just follow the part that’s leading, even though you don’t recognize it.

It’s easy to use sandpaper, to criticize. The critic is rarely criticized. It’s safe. But it’s a lot harder to draw up the plans

Stop asking “How long will this take?” and start with “How much time is this worth?” Let your time budget drive scope decisions, not the other way around.

Fulfilment is wanting the life you have

Stop overconsumping. Let the limitations in your life be the roadway

stop trying to force yourself into being happy and start loving whatever is taking you out of it every feeling wants the same thing we do: to be met without conditions so the next time you catch yourself trying to feel okay, try something different: turn toward the feeling and ask what it needs

Stress is fear based thinking

Stressed out people have lower willpower, inability to delay gratification, seek out pleasure. Stress undermines ability to regulate impulsivity. Cues can be environmental, so when you move cities or homes it’s the perfect opportunity to create new habits and shed old ones. Because it removes old cues

Gardening, not architecture

Stretching to live an extraordinary life: “if I can’t do it, then I must”. Make it a habit to go outside comfort zone. You need urgency and hunger. If there’s an opportunity there, take it.

Submission is power given, not power taken

Success and hard work: First the bad news: Most people lack the motivation to commit the time, energy, and attention that intensive practice requires. What’s the good news? Most people lack the motivation to commit the time, energy, and attention that intensive practice requires.

Success means whatever inspired you, you followed it through. Successful people are not the smartest or most talented. They are the ones who persist through the ups and downs and organise their life around their goals.

Get to yes. Say yes to the present moment without attachment to outcome.

Suffering = not getting what you want

It’s not about changing. It’s about remembering who you already are.

Suffering reminds you where you are clinging

Suffering shows you where the mind is still clinging

Give and your shall receive but do not expect to receive

It’s not being the smartest one in the room .. it’s being smart enough to surround yourself around the people who ya learn off to get to where you want

the Sun don’t stop for nobody

Sunk cost -> if I weren’t already invested in this, how much would I invest in it now? / what else could I do with the time or money if I pulled the plug now?

Suppose they gave a war and nobody came?

Give the guest the better plate

survival of the most cooperative Human nature is gentle Anyone can become Buddha

There’s only one way a poet can develop his actual writing — apart from self-criticism & continual practice. And that is by reading other poetry aloud — and it doesn’t matter whether he understands it or not (i.e. even if it is in another language.) What matters, above all, is educating the ear. What matters, is to connect your own voice within an infinite range of verbal cadences & sequences — and only endless actual experience of your ear can store all that is in your nervous system. The rest can be left to your life & your character.

Take a walk at night. Walk so silently that the bottoms of your feet become ears

It’s not heart break, it’s heartbreaking open

Take an aesthetic approach to life rather than a moralizing one

God has no limitation. Therefore we are here to experience limitation for it through our perception.

Take responsibility for your character and your character will take care of your destiny

Take the breaks off before you accelerate

Take the piano teacher, for example. He always says, Relax, relax. But how can you relax while your fingers are rushing over the keys? Yet they have to relax. The singing teacher and the golf pro say exactly the same thing. And in the realm of spiritual exercises we find that the person who teaches mental prayer does too. We have somehow to combine relaxation with activity…

Take time to discern if someone can be trusted. Their behaviour, conduct, the people around them

Good artists create, great artists steal. What’s the difference between good theft vs bad theft Honour vs degrade Study vs skim Steal from many vs steal from one Credit vs plagiarize Transform vs imitate Remix vs rip off --- Everyone thinks they’re not good enough yet to share (Eg writing, drawing, speaking). But if you don’t, you’ll never improve. If no one ever plays football they’ll never become professionals. The universe rewards those who share their gifts with more gifts. Who would give more gifts if you didn’t use the last ones? And people who watch you in the early stages will be inspired to share their gifts too. So it’s a win win.

It’s very possible that eliminating distractions, not accumulating resources, is the best way to maximize your potential. Constraints drive creativity . What is the minimum you need to succeed?

Teach in order to learn.

Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are

That hosting was literal at first, and became internal over time. I learned to trust that she could receive my most abject moods. And it wasn’t only that she said accepting words, it was that she said them from somewhere settled, without urgency, without needing me to feel better, without her own anxiety leaking into the offer. I couldn’t have told you that at the time, but some part of me registered it, the way you register whether someone’s welcome is actually warm and lived-in, or just performed to look that way. Someone can host you while themselves bracing, needing the guest to behave a certain way, see them as good, and they will, without meaning to, communicate that some things are welcome here and others actually aren’t. The welcome is technically there. But the frightened part of ourselves can tell the difference between a welcome that’s a true lap, and a welcome offered by someone who is, underneath, hoping you won’t come all the way in.

i’ve noticed how it’s the connections that i make with people that are actually the thing worth living for, and nothing else, really. it’s the connections that make me feel i am here and that also make me want to be here. how can i reach out to other people to help them feel connected? that’s the only thing of heartfelt importance to me

That is perhaps the most solid dating advice I have, by the way—show the inside of your head in public, so people can see if they would like to live in there.

That which seeks the mind is the mind.

That’s just how it is right now

Joy is the creation born of discovery

The act of writing is to me to listen. When I write I never prepare, I don’t plan anything, I proceed by listening… At a certain point I always get a feeling that the text has already been written, is out there somewhere, not inside me, and that I just need to write it down before the text disappears.

The aim of Psychotherapy is to increase the range of decisions and quality of decisions you can make. Powerful people have the option of lots of choices. Weak people have few. Intelligent people make good decisions.

The answers are not outside us, they are within. Our outer world is just a projection of our inner world

The art is only ever half finished. It’s only completed when there’s an audience for it. Then it’s a combination of the interpretation of the audience and the work itself. It’s that grey area in the middle is what the work is about.

Habits can be replaced or broken but they never dissappear

The audience is listening to the talk into being as much as you are giving it

Just assume people want to hear from you and connect with you

The bad news is you’re falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is there’s no ground

The best friendships are where you’ve had a falling out. Where there has been forgiveness. And a fear of losing each other.

Donald Glover on being born black vs white: “Would you rather see the opportunities and not have them, or have them and not see them?

Just for today… Let go of worry Let go of anger

The best way is always to stop when you are going good and when you know what will happen next,” Ernest Hemingway once told an interviewer about his writing process. “If you do that every day when you are writing a novel you will never be stuck.

The brain doesn’t care about you being happy. It cares about you surviving. We reenter situations and relations that are damaging to us because we are skilled at surviving them. When kind people come along, we question their motives or think they’ll realise we’re not worthy and will abandon us. A secure relationship is one where it’s based on mutually building something together that supports each of us. For 65% of people they are insecure, so it’s emotions based and dependent on what emotions are present right now — focused on the relationship feelings instead of the connection

The braver I am, the luckier I get

The brick walls are not there to keep us out. They’re there to show how badly we want something. They’re there to stop the other people. You have learnt everything you know through repetition

Keep moving towards the person you know you can be

The business of the universe is to make such a fool of you that you will know yourself for one, and so begin to be wise

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.

The combination of time and attention is the only real currency of a life. How time is spent determines the quality of a life. How attention is spent determines the quality of time. Having more time means nothing if attention is squandered.

All your dreams are already yours. If you drop a cookie, to an ant far away the cookie is in the future. From a higher perspective you see that the cookie is already in the present.

The creative adult is the child who survived

The crucial difference when you act is that your self-image changes. You stop feeling like a coward and beocme a hero.

Learn to love fear. Move closer to the thing your ego is telling you is hurting you

The difference between medicine and poison is the dose

The division between what we do and what happens to us is arbitrary. Just as we can choose to breath voluntarily, so to is breath done involuntarily

Breathe in experience. Breathe out poetry.

The ego is a trauma response

The ego loves otherness and competition because it reinforces its existence.

The Essence of divinity is the power of creation

Learning is ultimately painful because you have to accept that you were wrong. And you have to let that wrong part of you die. The self. You undergo a series of transformations, tragedies throughout your life. Collapses and mini resurrections that mould your character. Your self manages these transformations.

The feeling of loneliness resides in the difference between the kind of social contact you want and the social contact you actually have. It’s different for everyone

The flip side of perfectionism is judgement

The healing of a therapist relationship is not in the content (the conversation) but the context (a loving, non judgemental space).

The heart of compassion is really acceptance. The better we are at accepting ourselves and others, the more compassionate we become. Well it’s difficult to accept people when they are hurting us or taking advantage of us or walking all over us. If we want to practice compassion, we have to start by setting boundaries and holding people accountable for their behaviour

Let others choose how they want to be. Let them choose how to act and what to say. It is only when we let others be free that we free ourselves from attachment.

The impact of trauma is that you lose connection to your intuition. Because it’s the part of you telling you to flee.

The joy is in getting real. Not whether good things or bad things are happening.

Don’t die with the music inside. Listen, and play what you hear.

The knotted snake will eventually unknot itself

Life can only be understood backwards but must be lived forwards

The magic other is the fantasy of finding the perfect parent, someone who loves and cares for you

Life has so much to give you that you won’t ever get this moment again

The map is not the territory

The mere-exposure effect is a psychological phenomenon by which people tend to develop a preference for things merely because they are familiar with them. In social psychology , this effect is sometimes called the familiarity principle

The mind doesn’t care whether what you tell it is true or false, it lets it all in.

Life is a creation not a discovery

The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.

The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked… exposing too much of you heart and your mind and what exists on the inside… showing too much of yourself … that’s the moment you may be starting to get it right

The more important a call or action is to our souls evolution, the more Resistance will feel towards pursuing it

Life is dancing on a shifting carpet. Not having the right pulled from under your feet.

The more we are grateful and enjoy the feeling, the more we create moments to be thankful for

The more you suppress your thoughts, the more likely you are to rebound. Don’t try to restrain your thoughts about smoking.

The most important part of your journey is the step you’re taking now

Life is like arriving late for a movie, having to figure out what was going on without bothering everybody with a lot of questions, and then being unexpectedly called away before you find out how it ends.

The most pleasurable way to touch another person is to make the touch pleasurable to you (feeling into the hand, becoming aware of other senses)

Life is not about having right goals and reaching them but it’s about generating energy enthusiastically pedalling your bicycle of everyday action that attracts goals towards you and not stopping and stumbling at any goal but keep on pedalling.

The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced

The near enemy of compassion is pity. The near enemy of connection is control. The far enemy is disconnection. It’s easy to recognise the far enemy but the near enemy masquerades itself.

The novelist William Gibson has a wonderful term, “personal micro-culture”, by which he means all the things you surround yourself with— people, books, and any kind of ideological input. Those things essentially shape what you think and care about.

How do you move on? You move on when your heart finally understands that there is no turning back

The obstacle is the way (the problem is the solution)

The only think you are lacking is what you are not giving. So if you feel unloved, love

The only way for plants to grow is to trim them back

Life’s magic is in the unknown. Everyone dislikes ambiguity because we like to feel in control. But embrace the unknown - everything is impermanent. The unknown is where expansion happens, where growth happens.

The only way you transcend this experience is falling in love with it just as it is.

The opposite of compassion is cynicism

The opposite of love is judgement

How is it possible that 3 cowboys can herd a thousand cattle? Easy. They don’t. They herd 10 catttle, and those cattle influence 50 cattle. And those cattle influence more cattle. And so on. That’s the way every single widespread movement, product, service or work of art has changed the world. And so we ignore the masses and those who love the status quo. We find 10 people who care about our work

Live to the point of tears

The outward sense is as the palm of a hand. The whole of the object is not grasped in the palm

Look for the best in people and you’ll find it

The past—as thoughts, memories, images—happens Now, in your presence, not “in the past.” The future—as pictures, plans, hopes, dreams, fantasies—happens Now, in your presence, not “in the future.” Every thought—even a thought about the past—is a present thought. Every feeling—even a seemingly “old” feeling—is part of the present movement of life.

The past gives you an identity. And the future gives you the promise of salvation and fulfillment. Both are an illusion

The past is our definition. We may strive, with good reason, to escape it. Or to escape what is bad in it. But we will escape it only by adding something better to it

How you do anything is how you do everything

The personal conscious self being a kind of small island in the midst of an enormous area of consciousness — what has to be relaxed is the personal self, the self that tries too hard, that thinks it knows what is what, that uses language. This has to be relaxed in order that the multiple powers at work within the deeper and wider self may come through and function as they should. In all psychophysical skills we have this curious fact of the law of reversed effort: the harder we try, the worse we do the thing.

The physical world is the densest world (of spirituality). Which makes it the hardest to change and tells the truth of our energetic patterns over time. Eg if you are in a pattern of shame, that will show up in job environment friends etc. the physical world

The point of boundaries is to let people in, not to keep them out

Look where you’re placing your feet even while you look to the great horizon

The point of journalism is not to regurgitate the facts. It’s to uncover the point, why it matters to people. Look for the lead.

The point of power is in the now “The best arguments in the world won’t change a single person’s mind. The only thing that can do that is a good story.

The price of success is always paid in full and in advance. Failure is part payment. (you have to meet failure on the way)

Humans are creators in the image of God. You do not choose everything that happens to you but you do choose their consequences. You decide who you are with regard to them

The price of wealth is speed

Looking good, feeling great

The price you pay for being is suffering. There is no way out, so find a way to make it worthwhile. “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”. You need ever greater exposure to fears, anxieties, and failures to be able to experience and handle the full potential of life.

Love compassion and wisdom are on the other side of storytelling, beyond good and evil “Writing is a pilgrimage but it comes towards you

The problem is not the event. It’s your reaction.

The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation.

Love grows into awareness. And awareness grows into love

The real life hack is to get people to pay you for a version of your natural tendencies which brings them into greater balance and elevates them to formal and sustainable acts of service. The professionalization process being its own act of refinement of your personality.

the reason you don’t have what you want is simply because you do not want it badly enough. The sooner you accept that, the happier you’ll be. Then the next question is: Do you want to be happy or do you want to achieve what you want?

Don’t question your beliefs. They’re so unconscious that they’re ‘just the way things are’ and ‘who I am’. Instead, question your fundamental truths.

The secret is being simultaneously human and divine. You respond in a really complex way to suffering. As a human being your heart breaks and it’s unbearable and you do what you can to heal it. And another level of your being embraces it all into the heart that is full and happy and present and joyful and lives with the mystery.

The secret is to choose love in every instance. The feeling of love is your experience of God

The seed is as much the goal as the flower

Love is knowing you share your being with everyone, at the deepest level we are one. Love is the absence of separation, it’s the nature of relationship.

Passion in a relationship is comensurate with how much uncertainty you can tolerate

Challenge everything that was decided before you were born

The shadow is the side of ourselves that we try to keep hidden away from the world. The angry outbursts, the things we say that we didn’t mean, the side that has us thinking ‘wow did I really just do or say that?’ The shadow is not our ‘bad’ or ‘dark’ side. It is our repressed side. It is the why behind the angry outburst or snarky comments to others. Find the why’s and the needs (e.g. a solution to repressing anger due to someone taking advantage of you is to establish boundaries)

The things we are fighting against will only create more of. If you are in victim hood you will set up your life to fight against it. What you resist persists. The best thing is to embrace and accept its opposite and it will go away (eg seeing pedo news everywhere, accept it exists, stop trying to rid the world of it). We experience increasing scenarios getting more ridiculous because the ridiculous wakes us up from it

Make each day your masterpiece

The times are urgent. Let us slow down.

The truth is like a lion. You don’t need to defend it. Just let it out and it will defend itself.

The truth is sensational

The way it begins is the way it ends

Make sure you still reward yourself every day along the way. They can be healthier

The way to heal is to feel

The wisdom of your parents becomes so much more valuable when they die. Because there’s no more in circulation. Similarly time is the most valuable thing we have because it’s non-renewable.

The world around us is our you inverse (universe). Your perception is making a unique universe and that’s all a reflection of what’s inside of you. The journey you think you’re on is really just a journey within you

Marketing is as much for the artist as for the the audience. You have to be a fan of your own art. It’s an extension of your passion, build a world around your art: the colours, designs, videos. Be proud of what you’ve made, you’ve put too much time and energy and love into it just to post on IG once. Don’t make viral videos or follow trends. Find an avenue that feels authentic and excites you: make posters, trailers, behind the scenes, write an article or make cool graphics.

The worst mistake a dancer can make is think

don’t aspire to have the best ingredients. Aspire to be the best chef.

There is a false saying: ‘how can someone who cant save himself save others?’ Supposing I have the key to your chains, why should your lock and my lock be the same

There is a growing human need that we simply said yes to serving. And sign up for the cost. Because on the days your hope wains, you’ll remember you signed up for this cause. Because the outcome is so beautiful it makes the cost worthwhile

May fear be your teacher and love your guide.

There is no greater burden on a child than an unlived life of a parent

There is no home on the waves of a river. River is the refuge. Keep moving, keep moving. Lose judgement and preference of action, you are just pedaling the bike. Each action moves the pedals. Your every day actions are circular like cycling. If there is no goal you stop pedaling and ask what’s the point. But creativity is about participating in action

There is no security because of impermanence. The best security is trust in your capacity to handle impermanence

Meaningful life change comes from mindful practice

There is no self worth because there is no self

There is no such thing as letting go. Energy transforms it doesn’t disappear. Take your grief, pain and sadness and create something new.

”There is only one reason to do anything: as a statement to the universe of who you are. Used in this way, life becomes Self creative. You use life to create your Self as who you are and who you’ve always wanted to be.” You undo things because they are no longer a statement of who you want to be

There’s a part of you that will always be fearful. Just don’t let it be in charge

Meditation - allow shame, fear, guilt to arise and sit with it

There’s enjoyment in doing things you don’t enjoy

There’s no point running for a plane. You’ve already missed it or made it. Same thing with working hard on an idea. Experiment fast. When you have product market fit, the signal is so clear it doesn’t matter how perfect you’ve made it. They’re not failures, they’re tests that didn’t work.

Mohammad Ali told himself he was the greatest, before he even was. And then he became it.

There’s no story that will make me feel like I am enough. If there were, that would mean that enoughness comes from outside of me, from the perception of others. How can enoughness come from others? You can never be enough to everyone.

There’s no success big enough that you won’t need success ever again. No meal big enough that you won’t need to eat ever again. No drink big enough that you won’t need to drink again.

There’s no such thing as rejection, only redirection

There’s no such things as rejection only redirection

There’s no such things as rejection only redirection important than your physical self.

Most complex projects have an internal organization that is not immediately obvious at first. If you start to understand it though, you can tease it apart into separate processes and tackle them one at a time, turning a complex and ADHD-aggravating task into something much more palatable to the brain.

There’s no writers block. Just judgement of your own work.

There’s nothing more inspirational than being in the presence of someone who is risking themselves in every sentence

Most important: be honest. Say, I like it. And I do it. Not an internal battle over the addiction. Something stays interesting so long as you have not seen the total hell and heaven of it. The guilt feeds it. We believe we can have the heaven and not the hell, which makes us want it even more. Eat both parts of the fruit.

They wanted to bury us but the didn’t know we were seeds

Most people enter relationships with an eye to what they can get out of them rather than what they can give. The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of yourself you’d like to see show up, not what part of another you can capture

This body belongs to planet earth

This matters because of homeostasis - the body’s aim to maintain stability. Eg shivering when cold to get warm, sweating to get cool. This manifests as tolerance (eg someone who doesn’t drink much will get drunk fast). You can develop a dopamine tolerance so that those things with low dopamine release don’t interest you any longer.

This means that we can recognise in other persons only what we have personally experienced, in this lifetime or in previous lifetimes.

Move around the pieces of your life until you find peace in your life

This process takes nanoseconds. In order to win them over and get them to invest a bit more attention to ponder your features or pricing, first you need to get past this triage and “look like food.” Therefore, you need to understand the target in their brain. In other words, you need to read their minds.

Thoughts Disguised as Feelings often contain interpretations, blame, or evaluations about others’ actions. Examples: “I feel ignored,” “I feel manipulated,” “I feel abandoned.” Why? Because these statements imply someone did something to you rather than expressing your raw emotional experience.

Time doesn’t pass. We pass through it.

Time exists on the horizontal plane. Live instead on the vertical dimension

we “must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.

Time works in your favour yo to a certain age. It offers you promise. Until it turns and then it becomes your wnemy. It takes away from you until it kills you

To appreciate wine, you have to appreciate the grapes, the smell, the taste, where it came from. There’s a particular palette that gets set up to appreciate it. How can I appreciate that which I dislike about me? How can attune the gift of me?

To choose good thoughts is to reject the bad ones—and to reject something is to entertain it, is to make it exist. The act of deciding that something does not, or cannot, exist immediately backfires and makes it exist, by the mere fact that the act forces us to think it into existence to begin with

My behaviour is my beauty

My happiness does not mean someone else is not. Thousands of candles can be light from the same candle and the life of the single candle will not be shortened.

My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me and that which misses me was never meant for me

To fail is only to change the way

To get out of a mental state, do something unexpected. Jump up, wiggle, make a strange noise.

To identify limiting beliefs, ask “what would I have to believe about this to feel the way I do” (eg jealousy at gf talking to a man = she will leave me and I’ll be alone forever). Then ask, is it really true?

I see dating as practice for the one. So whether it works out or not it’s practice

To not have your heart broken is to pretend you don’t have one

To reach out for something new, let go of what’s already in your hand

To reflect the world in the mirror of the metaphor — this is my goal. Metaphor does not only belong to linguistic communication but can also be found in our daily life. Metaphor is the means of communication that we live by. First of all, the metaphor is aimed at the viewer’s feelings and subconscious. It gives full rein to imagination, as it is the imagination that creates the connections between two seemingly different things.

To restore the world we need to restory the world

To seek validation from a place of insufficiency only leads to the same

To start a brainstorm, ask What’s the worst possible idea we can come up with

to whom much is given, much is required

My secret to success: I never gave or took an excuse.

Today live intentionally for those who didn’t get a chance. Create a moment to transmit healing

Nature doesn’t hurry, yet everything is accomplished.

too close, too easy too close to see too easy to believe so we struggle to recognise something too close and easy like love

Tool: add “like me” to an internal judgement eg he’s an attention whore like me

Totality of action = commitment = newness. Trying to use the mind is like darkness solving darkness.

Nature loves courage . You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and Allow your life to be an upwards spiral, not a loop

Tough men make good times. Good times make weak men. Weak men make hard times. Hard times make tough men.

Trauma isn’t just bad things happening. Developmental trauma is where good things don’t happen. It’s where parents aren’t there for you to hold you and your emotions. The child then disconnects from their emotions because it’s too painful.

Trauma was too hard to process so it froze.

Navigate from draining chitchat to meaningful conversations. Ask about a person’s experience of an event rather than the details (e.g. what made you want to do X; what was it like doing Y; why is that important to you; vs. who/what/where)

Treat everyone as yourself. You no longer identity with the body but with everything. Just as you wouldn’t trash your body, you wouldn’t trash your world.

Collective illusions: situations where most people in a group go along with a view with they don’t agree with because they incorrectly believe the majority agree with it.

Treat my life as an altar to my soul

Treat yourself and others with reverence and respect. We are not looking for beautiful products, we are looking for beautiful human beings who make us feel beautiful

Trust God but tie your camels ankle

Nervousness is the same as excitement. So before something that makes you nervous, think about some aspect of the future of that situation that you’re looking forward to

Trust that when the heart is ready, and not a moment before, it will open, like a flower in the warmth of the sun. There is no rush for the heart. Trust the opening and the closing, too, the expansion and the contraction; this is the heart’s way of breathing: safe, unsafe, safe, unsafe; the beautiful fragility of being human, and all held in the most perfect love

Community is extremely important for the creative life.

If a pickpocket Mets a saint, all he sees is pockets.

Trust = we always do what we want to do. Instead of saying “I can’t” say “I choose” or “I choose not”.

Trustworthy people are not those who always keep their agreements with me. But those who never betray themselves, even if it means breaking an agreement with me.

No civilization with homeless people can call itself civilized

Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.

Trying is failing

Tune into the possibility around you

Turn sideways into the light and dissapear (not to have a conversation that will make you smaller, I.e battle in Irish mythology)

If at any moment you know what you need to do but don’t feel like it, count back from 5 to 1. The moment you have an instinct to move, you’ve gotta do it in five seconds or your brain will kill it. This rule is a starting ritual for habits that interrupts your pattern of thinking and introduces your prefrontal cortex.

Turn your fear into faith

Twice a month, pick any important relationship and ask yourself: “What’s the scary thing I’m not saying?

TWO HABITS WHICH WILL INTENSIFY AND ACCOMMODATE YOUR PROCESS WITH DEVELOPMENT AND INTEGRATION OF ENERGY. AND TO CHANGE YOUR OLD PATTERNs: 1 KEEP YOUR SPINE STRAIGHT DURING THE DAY DON’T SLOUCH OR BEND SPINE OUT OF HABIT PATTERNS, WHEN EVER YOU NOTICE STRAIGHTEN SPINE IN RELAXED BALANCED WAY. YOU WILL NOTICE CHANGE IN MOOD AND ENHANCEMENT OF AWARENESS, WELL BEING AND CONFIDENCE. 2 BREATHE DEEP AND LONG DURING THE DAY, NOT LIKE SUPER SLOW BREATH DURING THE WHOLE BODY BREATHING PRACTISE. BUT NORMAL SPEED DEEP TILL BELLY. KEEP EVEN SPEED. THIS PARTICULAR PRACTISE IS MENTIONED BY SO MANY MASTERS INCLUDING OSHO, VIVEKANANDA ETC. IT WILL START TO ACTIVATE ALL YOUR CHAKRAS AND CREATE PROTECTIVE ENERGY FIELD AROUND YOUR BODY.

No one can pass the gateless gate. So be no one

Use the advantages of youth when you have them, and the advantages of age once you have those. The advantages of youth are energy, time, optimism, and freedom. The advantages of age are knowledge, efficiency, money, and power. With effort you can acquire some of the latter when young and keep some of the former when old.

Value you the things that lead to long term happiness

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has escaped it. And that is as it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It is life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not long from now, you will become the old and be cleared away. Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma which is living with the results of other people’s thinking

View your life as your own design to feel empowered

Visualize process not result. Not being at the podium but the hard work on the pitch

Nobody can make me feel in a way I do not think

vulnerability is a key step in becoming whole. Because until you are willing for others to see something about yourself, how can you really be said to be unburdened by it

Non violent communication: 1. Observation: “When I saw you leave without saying goodbye…” 2. Feeling: “…I felt hurt and confused…” 3. Need: “…because I need clarity and connection.” 4. Request: “Could you let me know before leaving next time?

Walk into a room and instead of thinking ‘what do they think of me’, think ‘I wonder who’s here that I could meet that would interest me’ There’s no such thing as no motivation, just motivation pointing in a different direction and perhaps not the way you want or expect

Wanna be successful? Learn to love to work.

Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

Water is attention. Whatever you give attention to, that thing will start to grow in your life.

If overwhelmed by a feeling, ask “can I handle feeling this sensation in my body in just this moment?

We all act out stories. Stories are central to our lives and they follow common patterns - hence the expected end to a comedy or a tragedy. And stories have a universal grammar. And religion is the ultimate hero story. The story of Jesus is the ultimate tragedy (innocent, compassionate person is betrayed). But also a comedy (happy ending) because he is resurrected.

Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood

We all believe in God but chose which one, be it the God of work, addiction, or self-doubt. There will be some totemic belief that you revere or worship. Worrying is just praying for what you don’t want.

Notice a moment when you’re feeling unhappy for whatever reason. Ask yourself, “What am I trying to control that’s actually uncontrollable?” Declare it uncontrollable and let it be. Say in your mind or out loud, “I consciously let go of trying to control it, whatever it is.” Look for a positive action you can take right now. Then tune in with your natural awareness to the sensations in your body. See if you notice a new sense of ease spreading through you. It may come in like a whisper at first, but the more you devote your attention to it, the clearer the sweet feeling of liberation will be. --- Consciousness cannot be defined because ultimate reality cannot be defined. But it can be evoked. Consciousness is that with which all experience is known. That within which all experience arises. And ultimately it is that out of which everything is made

We all have a hierarchy of values and whatever you place on top is your God “When most people envision the future, they project the current form forward rather than projecting the function forward and abandoning the form.” James Clear. E.g. smartphones which looked just like dumb phones. Flying cars (which exist as airplanes)

Notice and celebrate different ways you no longer betray yourself

We all have blind spots because the eye can’t see what it can’t see. Relationships are mirrors

We all have filters in which we see the world (survival strategies). Coachin helps point these out. Adaptable survival styles are the way we organize reality. It’s how we coped as children. But they take energy and when we let them go it creates spaciousness

We all have to find what supports us when nothing supports us

If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.

Notice that the people around you who are brutally honest are a lot stronger

We are a strategy for moving energy around. Animals were created by plants for moving seeds around. Humans are a strategy for catalyzing nature.

We are addicted to wise words but most of us just need silence

We are all children playing out the stories of us as adults we made as children

Enlightenment is the ability to hold two seemingly contradictory ideas simultaneously. (Like the idea of letting go)

We are all skilled density movers by creatively and symbolically objectifying ‘external’ reality as a ‘mirror’ and then experiencing it through trauma, drama, pain, struggle, suffering, and stories. You can go within and feel it in meditation, or you can manifest and feel it in the feedback called reality. Your choice.

We are energetic beings having a physical experience. When we forgive and love, it has an energetic experience on others.

We are hypnotised by our own minds

Now that we have it, can we reduce it to its maximum… strip things away to make it as spacious and powerful as possible (editing music, writing etc)

We are in the midst of a mythological crisis in that we have fallen out of a story… For it is through the threshold of the story we step through the usual duality and divisions of life… In the mythic condition we become more truly who we are in our core and who we are bound to be in the world.

On overthinking: There is a horse and a boy and the boy is lost in the woods. And the boy says I’m lost, what do I do? And the horse asks, can you see your next step? And the boy says yes. And the horse says, just do that.

We are like fish in the ocean. We swim in a sea of thoughts and yet never examine what is a thought just as a fish never examines what is water

We are proportionally afraid of larger and larger crowds when public speaking because there are more eyes and less places to hide. Unless you are honest, someone will smoke you out. You need to bring your full self. If part of you is shy and reluctant, say to that part “just come out with me because I need you there. But another part of me will do the speech”.

We are quite literally that animal that can sense the future. And being able to sense it over the past hundred thousand years, we have gone in search of it, in the same way that an animal can smell water on the wind and can then go in search of water and eventually find the waterhole. Because of our large brain capacity, because information is a quantum-mechanically expressed state in the brain, we can smell the future, and have been able to do so for fifty, sixty thousand years

The essence of trauma is a loss of contact with yourself

We can choose to perceive something as pleasure or pain. Why do people enjoy BDSM but not in real life? Because it’s a choice

We can forgive others because we have compassion for ourselves. We no longer want to be affected by the resentment. You know you have forgiven when you can see or hear about that person and have no emotional reaction. There’s is no emotional wound any more

On the other side of contractive fear is expansive consciousness

We can’t change the past, but we can decide what meaning that experience had

We cook the food. We serve the food. We don’t get hung up on how much food everybody eats” - don’t value yourself based on how much someone takes away from your coaching / teaching. Your job is just to show up and serve.

If we are experiencing something new, for the first time, it’s novel for God too. Because we are God.

We do spiritual ceremonies as human beings in order to create a safe resting place for our most complicated feelings of joy or trauma, so that we don’t have to haul those feelings around with us forever, weighing us down.

One of the most powerful jedi mind tricks I’ve learned from somatic therapy is “interrupt by joining.

If you are spirit led, things run peacefully. If you are ego led, there’s usually struggle

We dont fall in love with another person. We fall in love with the version of us we get to be with and through the other person. They’re the catalyst to reveal the love that is your nature

We don’t need to know everything about everything from the beginning.

We get to assign meaning to anything. Our brain is a story-telling machine. And when we believe something, it becomes true

One should handle their anger the way a child handles a screaming baby, with love and care

We glamorize starting. But quitting is the equally important thing that comes before starting. We need to become better quitters

We have a responsibility to dream and an obligation to awaken

We have agreed that asking questions is not safe. That is why we make assumptions. Have the courage to seek clarity through questions. And know that you have the right to ask for what you want, and they have the right to say no.