Do it mindfully

if you don’t allow yourself to get triggered

You’ll never allow yourself to heal the wound

So stop denying your self-sabotage

Have that piece of cake

Message your ex

Watch that porno

But just do one thing —

Do it mindfully

Notice how you’re feeling in the triggered state

Notice how it feels when you indulge

Notice how it feels afterwards

And be kind —

This is a compassionate process

No need for shaming

Just curiosity

And what you might notice

With a little bit of time

And a little bit of repetition

Is that it didn’t feel that good all along

And as the resistance drops

So too does the urge